Yes to gently used gear! Luckily as a lady rider I've got the Mudbunnies Facebook group where folks often clear out closets of unused gear (where do people get all this stuff???) or newbies who opted to hang up their pads after a few not too successful rides. As long as it's only mildly used!
I would probably stop short at helmets though cause really you never know and I'm not skimping on the noggin!