aka not fat
of for sure. it's something i've discussed in other threds before but there's a strong correlation for many people between a healthy diet, regular exercise and lower levles of body fat. generally if you do the right right things consistently over your lifetime there's not reason you can't still be vibrant at 50, 60 and beyond. i think that she emboies that even if she's had a little bit of help in that pic, so why not celebrate it?. locally, peter morin or bryan's dad stands out as good examples of an older person still living a great life due to a lifetime of activity and taking care of themselves.
now if you want to talk about personal preferences when it comes to level of body fat i've dated really petite/thin women and also some bigger women. do i prefer a fitter body type? sure, but that's not what it's all about. i remember once a good friend said to me regarding dating, "focus on finding a good person first."
along those lines, it's okay to have certain physical preferences, but i don't think it's ok to devalue someone by labelling fat. while that may not be the intent, our societal values tend associate those who are heavier or fat to be not as "good" as people who are thinner and this is a bigger issue for women that it is for men. hence why i spoke up in the star wars burlesque thread. i also thought i did a pretty good job of keeping that post on topic and not making it an attack or busting anyone's balls with it.
i know it's a bigger issue for me than most on here, but i'm also exposed to the negative consequences of such behaviour that some people have to deal with as well so my perspective is quite differnt than the attitude of "people just need a thicker sking b/c it's the internet excuse."
We don't know what our limits are, so to start something with the idea of being limited actually ends up limiting us.
Ellen Langer