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the hypothetical new bike discussion w spouse advice thread...

Dec. 14, 2017, 7:32 p.m.
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debate, discuss, rationalize, coddle, cajole?  

state the fact, no discussion necessary?

why bother and it just appears one day, discuss then? 

proclaim with defiance?

strategic input welcomed.

Dec. 14, 2017, 8:02 p.m.
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Depends on 3,483,284 variables.

If you list yours out, I can provide guidance.

Dec. 14, 2017, 8:15 p.m.
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are you the sole bread winner? if so, charge ahead!

Dec. 14, 2017, 8:46 p.m.
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Posted by: JBV

debate, discuss, rationalize, coddle, cajole?

Use your tongue. Good plan.


 Last edited by: tungsten on Dec. 14, 2017, 8:47 p.m., edited 1 time in total.
Dec. 15, 2017, 4:58 a.m.
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It's always easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. Words to live by.

Dec. 15, 2017, 8:48 a.m.
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Lead with honesty, if that does not work....buy the same colour bike and hope your partner does not notice?

Dec. 15, 2017, 10:07 a.m.
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Talk to her about it.  She loves you and knows how important mountain biking is to you

Figure out what the family can afford.  

Buy a bike that's within that budget.  If getting the $4k or whatever a whole new bike costs together is difficult, consider squirreling away a few bucks each month until you have what you need.  Or do what I do and rarely buy a whole new bike - just get deliberate with upgrades and standards the you choose so that you'll be able to keep it running for as long as possible.

Start lying to your wife about shared finances and your life gets complicated in a hurry.  Think about if you'd want her to do that or not.

Dec. 15, 2017, 10:29 a.m.
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Whats wrong with using an appropriate bribe?

I got a buddy who went skiing in Japan with the boys

he got her a nice  pair of DPS wailers

but I call them the japanskis

Dec. 15, 2017, 1:31 p.m.
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We simply go for two for the price of one specials.  Her idea though.

Dec. 15, 2017, 1:36 p.m.
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We used to have a rule in our house of my wife getting a new pair of shoes ever time I bought a bike or a bike part over $100. She was so far behind after 2 years that she just gave up. 

Now, I will only buy a new bike after I sell the old one first and I have set a non-ridiculous budget that I operate within. It works for us. She understands that I enjoy building up and maintaining my bikes as much as I do riding them. Honestly, whatever works in your marriage is all good. 

Buying new shit shouldn't be at the cost of your happiness at home, what good is having a new bike if your spouse is significantly pissed or feels undervalued.

Dec. 15, 2017, 2:23 p.m.
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Whatever you do don't marry a middle child. The FOMO is so strong in mine. Buying anything and getting it past her not noticing is an impossible task. When busted the only card I can play is the safety issue card.

Dec. 15, 2017, 2:56 p.m.
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Posted by: pedalhound

Lead with honesty, if that does not work....buy the same colour bike and hope your partner does not notice?

YES!! But I'm separated.... so attempt at your own peril... :-) I just opened a bike shop to deal with my own issues... ha ha.


 Last edited by: GladePlayboy on Dec. 15, 2017, 3:05 p.m., edited 3 times in total.
Dec. 15, 2017, 3:24 p.m.
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Being single has never been better. Beers whenever I want, truck I wanted, strippers when I want, bikes I want. Did I mention beers whenever I want? 7am brewskis after a graveyard never tasted so good

Dec. 15, 2017, 5:17 p.m.
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Posted by: BurkeMtnRider

Being single has never been better. Beers whenever I want, truck I wanted, strippers when I want, bikes I want. Did I mention beers whenever I want? 7am brewskis after a graveyard never tasted so good

This. Was. The. Life. 

My GF didn't oppose my G16 build.  Even if she did I still likely would've bought/built it.

Dec. 15, 2017, 7:33 p.m.
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Ok, so it's been 24hrs and we haven't heard back from JBV at all. Do you think his wife found the thread and besides not getting a new bike he's no longer getting internet or anything else for that matter?

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