I have to disagree about needing to be light. I'm 270 lb and been running one for around a year. I bought it used, had it serviced by Gravity Dropper Turbo and have had no issues. I would like to have infinite adjustability, but I'll take the reliability over it. Getting it serviced by Gravity Dropper was quick. My wifes Reverb has been gone for 2 weeks at Norco and will get picked up this week. Shipping the Gravity Drooper to Gravity Dropper in the states to be serviced took about the same time and I think with shipping I paid around $60.
A full service costs $15, and if you add on replacement parts, then the price goes up. You are responsible for shipping there, but they cover the return.
I have a 27.2 x-fusion hilo. It's been pretty reliable so far and has the option for remote or under the seat lever. I've used both and the remote is working well for me (as long as I only use a single ziptie). But I'm 180 lbs. If I was a big dude like you I'd go for the ultimate in reliable-gravity dropper. And although I appreciate the infinite positions of the hilo, I don't think I would be any worse off with a gravity dropper with multi positions (say 1" and 4" drop.)
But yes the gravity droppers are fugly. Oh well.
So I still don't get the infinite adjustment argument. This weekend, the reverb on the bike I was riding was pissing me off because I never knew if it was fully up or not. As for the looks, I think that a big ungainly loop of cable is much uglier than anything else, especially if you can catch it on something. Most people don't like the boot, but there are other options.