So You Wanna Teach Your Girlfriend or Wife How To Ride

Words Anne Henmi
Date Nov 12, 2013

11 points to consider if you want to get your girlfriend or wife mountain biking with you…

1.Your old helmet will fit her fine. She doesn’t need to spend any money to get a helmet or gloves in something that you want her to be interested in. Save it for a used hardtail.

2. Give her the rigid bike from 1986 that you won’t ride anymore because it’s not cool, or give your 5’2″ 120 lb significant other your 6″ 200lb brother’s bike to borrow. No need to tune the bike for her body position because she’ll feel natural on the bike just like you do. And even though she’s can’t reach the pedals, she’s definitely going to have a great time.


When it comes to getting your girl on a bike, you might be doing it wrong… Photo Morgan Taylor – from a womens-specific bike review.

3. She’ll be fine on whatever the default suspension settings you have setup, no matter who rides the bike regularly. Even if she’s not used to feeling like she’s on a two-wheeled pogo stick.

4. Don’t tell her how to use the shifters and brakes. This will be completely intuitive on how not to cross-chain or make sure she’s not going to accidentally hit the front brake and endo. Also, don’t tell her when to shift or brake – she’ll figure that out on her own.

5. Take her on what you consider an “easy ride.” That black diamond run at the bike park will be just perfect for her first-ever bike ride.

6. Don’t wait for her. She’ll be more inspired to ride faster if you’re this little speck in the distance while she’s still trying to figure out how to shift while chasing you down. If you do wait for her, make sure to leave as soon as she reaches you so she knows exactly which way to go next.


She’ll figure it out. Photo Anne Henmi /

7. Any climb you take will be an enjoyable climb for her. And if she rides paved trails regularly, she’ll enjoy that 20% grade you take as a warmup to the main ride.

8. For an ideal first date, don’t forget to find the steepest and most technical downhill so you can get the adrenaline rushing for the both of you. That technical downhill will give her that “whoo-hoo!” factor.

9. Tell her what to do constantly (“Lay off the brakes!”) because she clearly needs good advice. Girls like getting yelled at while they’re trying to survive their first ride.

10. Don’t worry, she’ll have a wonderful time no matter what and only blame herself when she falls. After all, girls usually enjoy blaming themselves because it’s their favourite pastime.

Screen Shot 2013-11-11 at 11.35.56 PM

Or maybe not. Photo Matt Dennison / How To Be A Mountain Biker.

11. Most importantly, tell her she’s doing pretty good for a girl. That will make a great end on your way back home, and she’ll definitely enjoy spending the evening with you after a wonderful day on the trail.

If you said, “yeah so I don’t get it, I’m doing everything right!” you’re not. Try again.

Been there?

This piece was originally posted over at To keep up with their female-focused content stream, give them a follow on Facebook HERE.

Tags: mtb4her
Posted in: Trail Tales, News


Nicole Hsu  - Dec. 22, 2015, 6:14 a.m.

Husband or boyfriend is the worse couch. Get a perfassional bike instructor can save the relationship/marriage.


John Utah  - Dec. 22, 2015, 9:28 a.m.

yup and perhaps some help with spelling…


stripes  - Nov. 14, 2013, 9:49 p.m.

It's the author here. Thanks everyone 🙂 Nice to see a short little piece I wrote for Teresa at is still being enjoyed and creating discussion today.

Thank you so much for republishing it here. bows 🙂 -Anne


natazena  - Nov. 12, 2013, 8:34 p.m.

Love it! For anyone bringing out a beginner, don't try to get your ride in or show off. Go for a stellar ride first since all mountain bikers are constant fidgeters. Come back and it'll be easier to be patient with a beginner… and give her the right tools;)


james  - Nov. 12, 2013, 12:53 p.m.

just because YOU think there's no crying in mtn biking, doesn't mean there is not.


Bryce  - Nov. 12, 2013, 1:40 p.m.

speck in the distance don't hear no crying


Dgremlin  - Nov. 12, 2013, 7:33 a.m.

Yep. It's like teaching your wife or girlfriend to drive a car….DON'T! Pay someone else to do it. It's easier and much less aggravating. 🙂


Please log in to leave a comment.